The Last Thing You Should Do Before Sleeping.

Sleep is perhaps one of the most important, convenient and free-est source of energy that we have.

So it makes sense to maximise its effectiveness as much as possible.

Some of us stress ourselves out before we sleep.

We’re thinking about our problems or just stuff that needs to be done the next day and we just stress ourselves out.

That’s bad. And unnecessary.

We don’t want that kind of stuff going on in our heads when we’re trying to go to sleep.

Stress kills sleep.

And that causes sleep to suffer. Which means you won’t be benefiting much from your sleep.

We want sleep to do the most for us as much as possible. After all, we’re spending quite a significant number of hours sleeping. It makes sense to put those hours to full use then.

So the last thing you should do before you sleep is to

Laugh.

And I mean genuinely laugh.

It could be from watching a really funny video on Youtube, playing with your kids, anything.

It doesn’t matter what the source of laughter is as long as you have a good laugh before you sleep.

Laughing does three things here:
1. It takes your mind away from any negative thoughts
2. It instantly puts you in a good mood
3. It makes you realise that things aren’t so bad after all

This is a perfect state of mind to be in before you sleep.

Stress-free sleep = productive sleep.

And you’re very likely to wake up energised and in a good mood too.

So play a funny video or two on Youtube tonight before bed and laugh yourself to sleep.

Your mind and body will thank you for it.

The Most Important Trait That 80% Overlook.

Charismatic people seem to get everything they want and more.

People look up to them. People follow them. And people want to be like them.

But there’s one very important trait that all charismatic people have.

Being likeable.

It’s impossible to be influential and charismatic if others can’t honestly say,

‘You know what, I really like this person.’

Being likeable is something that a lot of us overlook in our pursuit of success and happiness in this life.

We’re always thinking of ways to achieve more, to get more stuff done in the day and  ways to get to our goals faster, but we don’t put much thought into being a more likeable person.

Think about it this way.

You could possess all the skills and talents in the world but if people don’t like you and you can’t work with others well, you’re greatly limiting the number of opportunities you’re going to have in life.

Now I’m not saying that you should try to please everyone and make everyone like you. That’s impossible.

But you greatly reduce the chances of someone disliking you if you’re a likeable person. And you instantly become more wanted by others (in a good way).

It’s really not that hard.

Listen more than you talk.
Give the person you’re talking to your fullest attention.
Be authentic, kind and empathic.
Help others out.
SMILE.

You don’t have to be the most outspoken person in a group to be likeable.
You don’t have to be the most fluent speaker in a group to be likeable.
You don’t even have to speak to be likeable in most situations.

Forget all that you know and hear about being likeable and charismatic.

Be likeable for your actions and people will gravitate towards you.

Hard Work.

Don’t be afraid of hard work.

People who are really hardworking almost always end up getting what they want.

But if you don’t have the desire or trait in you to work hard, you can always develop it.

People always say work smart and not hard, as an excuse to shy away from doing hard work.

True, but it takes a hard working person to know how to work smart and get things done as efficiently with a lot less effort.

Those who are successful know the true value of hard work because it’s what made them successful in the first place.

Sure there may be a number of them who simply got lucky, but that too is a result from initially working hard.

You can’t run away from work if you want to achieve anything in life.

The daily grind is real.

Be comfortable with hard work.

Shortcuts and quick fixes don’t exist in this world.

Forget about having a million dollar business within a month.
Forget about finishing projects within a day.
Forget about having six pack abs within 3 days.

Anything that’s worth having involves a lot of time and effort.

And that’s the cold hard truth.

The harder you work, the luckier you get.

When Things Don’t Go Your Way.

When things don’t go your way, it’s okay.

Some of us get really upset.

It’s hard to accept things and be okay with constant change but it’s important to realise that there will be times when things will go in the complete opposite direction of what what we wanted.

And it’s okay.

As long as nobody gets hurt and nobody gets taken advantage of, it’s really okay.

When things don’t go your way, know that it’s going someone else’s way.
When things don’t go your way, know that you’re being the bigger person.
When things don’t go your way, know that you’re making someone else happy.

We get upset simply because we’re selfish.

And when we’re selfish, we want everything to go our way and we get upset if things go any other way.

If we find ourselves constantly upset when things don’t go our way, it’s a big indication of a selfish character.

Expect things to go wrong.

Murphy’s law states that anything that can go wrong will go wrong.

The law exists for a reason and expecting everything to always go our way will just cause nothing but disappointment and hostility.

Be okay with uncertainty.

Why Being Busy is Good and Bad.

It’s good to be busy and occupied.

To always have your day scheduled full of things to do is a good thing.

It’s a very good thing actually.

But what’s not good is filling up our time and being busy with things that are not important and meaningful to your life.

There’s a difference between being busy and actually making an impact.

Not all busy people are productive or necessarily doing anything that’s beneficial with their time.

Some of them simply have their days scheduled with meaningless tasks.

They may be busy watching youtube videos and TV while someone else is busy working on projects that benefit others

They may be busy partying and drinking while someone else is busy netwotking at events and conventions.

They may be busy eating junk food and unhealthy snacks while someone else is busy working out at the gym.

And this is what makes certain people more successful than others.

The choices we make with our time now, influence and determine what we’re like 5-10 years later.

We all have the same 24 hours in a day.

But use it wrongly, and we don’t get to achieve much of what we want in this life we live.

Be busy with purpose.

The Ironic Truth.

Positivity is good.

Negativity is bad.

Sounds trivial and obvious but we don’t think about it much.

It’s strange how alot of us want the good things in life but don’t realize that we surround ourselves with more negativity than positivity.

And we wonder why good things don’t happen to us.

Some of us are even the cause of negativity for ourselves and others, and we don’t even realise it.

We want the good things in life but we complain more than we compliment others.
We want the good things in life but we take more than we give.
We want the good things in life but we expect more than we accept.

And some of us have been conditioned to think that all that is acceptable.

We’ve allowed the negativity to consume us that we forget what it’s like to be in a state of positivity.

Negativity and pessimism become the new norm, while anything that suggests the slightest hint of positivity and optimism is immediately labeled cheesy, cliche, cringy, or unrealistic.

It’s time to rebel against the status quo and start making a difference by changing yourself for the better.

Simplify.

We own and want too many things in this world.

We’re building up too much unnecessary clutter and not focusing on the things that we really need.

Too much money is unnecessarily spent, we still want more and we’re still unhappy with what we have.

Decluttering and simplifying doesn’t sound like they make sense.

“Why should I throw stuff away if I want to have more?”

It’s all about keeping the things that matter the most, things that you need and not want.

Simplifying has its benefits.

In terms of productivity, less clutter around your workspace gives you better focus on what’s important. The same applies if you’re using a computer for work. Having little to no desktop icons, having one or two tabs opened in Chrome instead of ten, etc. It will improve your productivity significantly.

In terms of money, simplifying means buying less of what you want and more of what you need. You may find yourself buying less as a result and even if you do buy something, you are assured that it’s a good purchase because it’s something that you really need. This helps you save money in the long run and ensures that you’re making good investments with your purchases.

In terms of quality of life, you can expect to be content with less, learn to be happier by detaching happiness from material things. Owning more does not guarantee happiness and simplifying your life will make that very obvious.

Like the great Bruce Lee once said,

“Absorb what is useful, discard what is useless.”

There are things in our lives that we’re keeping that are useless and they’re taking our focus away from the things that really matter.

Be content with less.