How to Thrive Under Pressure.

There might be certain days at work or school where you’ll find yourself being more stressed than usual.

Maybe your boss just said something negative to you about the quality of your work.

Maybe you have a school project deadline coming up very soon and everyone’s panicking to get it done quickly.

Either way, you realise that it’s starting to affect you negatively.

You just can’t seem to focus on getting work done because your brain is constantly thinking and worrying.

Some of us go into complete disarray when we’re stressed and pressured.

We can’t think straight.

We start doing and saying things that don’t make sense.

And the quality of our work goes down because our minds are just all over the place.

The only thing we need to do is to be able to focus on getting stuff done by shutting out all unnecessary thoughts.

Assuming that you’re not sleep-deprived or tired, the reason why you’re unable to focus is most likely due to all those thoughts running through your mind.

If you have a million things in your mind demanding for your attention, you’re not going to be able to focus and accomplish much.

You’ll just be distracted and worried by those thoughts.
You won’t be able to get in the zone while you’re working.
You won’t be making much progress in your work.

The human brain is really bad at multi-tasking.

It’s all about your ability to be still and focused on that one task you have to get done when everything else seems to be falling apart.

Pressurizing thoughts will pop up in your mind but you don’t let them faze you.

Shut them out and focus on the work you have to get done.

That’s the mark of a strong-minded individual.

“The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus”
– Bruce Lee


Why You Need to Stop Overachieving.

We’re always working hard to get to our destinations as fast as we can.

We’re so fixated on the end goal that we neglect the process of getting there.

“I’ll do whatever it takes to get there”, some of us might say.

This could mean sleepless nights, dozens of coffee every day and an unhealthy obsession to get to what we want as fast as possible.

That’s not healthy.

It’s a life full of stress and anxiety.

You’re constantly chasing and hardly living in the moment.

And you’ll be forgetting the very reason why you’re even chasing all these goals in the first place.



Isn’t that the reason why you want to earn a certain amount of money every year?
Isn’t that the reason why you want to start and grow a successful business?
Isn’t that the reason why you’re always turning down plans with the ones you love just so you can get more work done?

But life becomes a never-ending rat race then.

Why do so much just to find that you’ll have more to do when you reach the end of the tunnel?

It never ends.

Achieving more is not the answer.

We have wealthy and successful people who are unhappy.

But yet we have poorer people who are actually happy.

Just do a quick Google search and you’ll find articles and posts questioning the correlation between wealth and happiness.

You could be making a million dollars a year but still be unhappy if you despise your job.

You could be making minimum wage but still be extremely happy if you love what you do.

Success isn’t defined by how much you make.

Success is about waking up every day, being able to do what you love for a living while being surrounded by awesome people.

If you’re not having fun along the way, something is wrong.

Stop thinking about achieving so much and start enjoying the moment.

The rest will take care of itself.

What You Think, You Become.

Say and think that you’re worthless in your mind and your body will respond accordingly.

Say and think that you’re awesome in your mind and your body will respond accordingly.

The mind is intangible and we can’t measure the effects of such phenomenon.

But do a little experiment and see if it isn’t true.

Pick a day that you want and for this day, all you’re going to think about for the entire day are just negative thoughts.

“I’m useless”
“I can’t do anything right”
“My life has no meaning”

The thoughts can be as demoralizing, demotivating and discouraging as possible. The more negative the thoughts are, the more interesting this experiment will become.

Then pick another day and for this day, all you’re going to think about will just be positive thoughts instead.

“I’m the best at what I do!”
“I can do anything!”
“I’m awesome!”

Be as optimistic as possible and don’t hold back on praising yourself and showing yourself a lot of love throughout the day.

Positive thinking gets quite a lot of hate because it’s not measurable or tangible with some people claiming that it doesn’t work.

There are already numerous scientific studies that have proven its effectiveness.

But the only way we can truly find out for ourselves is if we actually try it out and see if it works.

If it works for you then great, but if it doesn’t then that’s okay.

Everyone reacts differently to everything.

Just because someone says something doesn’t work doesn’t mean it applies to everyone.

It’s all subject to trial and error.

So regarding the positive and negative days, observe how both days went by and ask yourself a few questions.

How was your mood?
How were your interactions with others?
How productive were you?
How did others treat you?
How different did the negative day go compared to the positive one?

The results might surprise you.

Are You Really Being Productive?

Are you in control of time?
Or is time controlling you?

We want to achieve as much as we can within the 24 hours that we have daily.

And we get anxious when we don’t get to complete what we set out to do for the day.

The busier we get, the unhappier and more stressed we become.

We don’t have time for the things that matter in our lives.
We stress ourselves out and constantly worry about the work we have to get done.
And we’re just being very busy without actually being productive.

But there’s a difference between being productive and being busy.

You could be very busy on a particular day and have a work output level of just 10%.
Not very productive.

You could be very busy on another day and have a work output level of 60%.
Actually productive.

But how do you ensure that you get the most out of your working sessions?
How do you get the most bang for your buck when you’re working?

It’s all about working on the things that bring the most value to your day.

If you ever feel like your day was wasted even though it seemed like you did a lot of stuff, it’s probably because you were working on the small stuff that didn’t matter as much.

Let’s say you have 10 things to do within a day, ask yourself which of those tasks you would do if you could only complete 3 of them.

Because those 3 tasks are the ones you should focus on and get done first before doing anything else.

Completing those 3 most important tasks will bring the most value to your workday.

It’s much better to complete those 3 most important tasks rather than to complete the other 7 not-so-important tasks.

So the next time you’re looking through your to-do list, ask yourself first what 3 tasks are the most important for the day.

And don’t work on anything else until those 3 are done.

Relating it to a business context, this is also why managers and executives delegate their work to others.

They have a lot of stuff going on that it’s impossible for them to do everything.

So what do they do?

Delegate the not-so-important tasks to their subordinates or certain apps.

Especially repetitive ones.

Then they put in their time and focus on the more important tasks.

I know some of us don’t have the privilege of delegating our work to others.

But the least we can do is to adopt the same mindset.

The time we have is limited.
Spend it wisely.


Replace negative self-talk.
Replace negative thoughts.

Tell yourself that there’s no room for negativity in your mind to exist.

There’s no time and purpose for it.

When your mind says, “I’m fat”.
Replace that thought with, “I’m perfect”.

When your mind says, “I’m a failure”.
Replace that thought with, “I can do it”.

Substitute that negative thought with a positive one.

Our minds can only focus on one thought at a time.

So when your mind is fixated on a negative thought, snap it out by substituting the negative thought with a positive one.

And repeat it over and over again.

Even if there aren’t any negative thoughts playing through your mind, just repeat some positive affirmations.

You’ll build a healthier state of mind.

“I’m awesome”.
“I’m perfect the way I am”.
“I can do anything I set my mind to”.

And you can’t say these without feeling good about yourself at the same time too.

You’ll feel uplifted.
You’ll be motivated.
And you’ll be magnetic to others too.

People will naturally gravitate towards your positive energy.

But if you let those negative thoughts have their way and you allow them to linger in your mind, the complete opposite happens.

You’ll be stressed, worried and develop unnecessary anxiety for yourself.
You’ll spend time worrying instead of getting things done.
You’ll have a weaker immune system from all the stress and worrying.

This will manifest naturally and others around you will pick up on it.

They start treating you more negatively based on the bad vibes they’re getting from you and you wonder why people don’t seem to like you.

Unhealthy self-talk and mental attitudes are major causes of stress and anxiety.

The mind has a way of making things look worse than they seem.

The mind also has the ability to do the opposite.

It’s all dependent on your thoughts and how you deal with them.

Self-actualised individuals with exceptionally high self-esteem are good examples of people who exhibit very strong and positive mental attitudes.

Will Smith, Connor McGregor, Oprah Winfrey are just a few of these people.

Tell yourself that you will not allow negative self-talk to occur any longer.

At the end of the day, it’s about becoming the best version of yourself.

And a healthy mental attitude is a big step towards that.

Take it one thought at a time.

Why You Need To Correct Your Posture.

We’re living in a day and age where we’re required to sit in front of computer screens for hours on end.

We develop hunched shoulders, rounded backs and just poor overall posture.

But it doesn’t just stop there.

We get fatigued more easily.
We develop pain in our lower backs.
We move less and become less healthy.

Low back pain is the single leading cause of disability in the world.

And it also leads to poor performance at work or school.

We’re not meant to sit in front of computer screens all day long.

We didn’t use to work like this 20 years ago.

But that’s just part of evolution and what we’re facing now as technology progresses and more of our jobs require us to sit at desks from 9 am to 5 pm every day.

Do we have worse posture than people did 20 years ago?

It turns out, we actually do.

The rising prevalence of chronic low back pain is a testament to the postural problem we face today.

More and more of us are developing it.

We can’t obviously go back 20 years in time.

But we can attempt to replicate some of the things that people back then did.

And one of the things that they did that we don’t is that they moved a lot more than we did since their jobs required less sitting.

This means taking frequent breaks and moving around when you’re working.

Start stretching more too.

Get that blood circulation going and loosen up those tense muscles and joints.

And it goes without saying that you should always be aware of when you’re slouching and straighten yourself up.

When we were young, our mums have always told us to straighten our backs when we sit.

We should heed that advice more than ever now.



It’s easy to focus when no one’s bothering you in the morning.

But what about when it’s the early afternoon?

After you’ve had your lunch, feeling that slight drowsiness kick in.
Co-workers coming up to chat with you every now and then.
Calls, emails and text messages constantly streaming in.

It can get very distracting.

And you might find yourself being very unproductive at the end of a long day.

So what can you do about it?

1. The Midday Slump

You know that drowsiness you get in the afternoon?

There are a couple of things you can do about this. Both to prevent it from occurring in the first place and also what to do when it already occurs.

Have a lighter meal during your lunch break.
Cut down on the carbs in your meal.
Go out for a walk when you feel the drowsiness hits.
Drink a lot of water.

If your work environment permits it, have a short 20-minute nap to recharge.

2. Emails and Messages

Check your emails only once or twice throughout the day. It could be once in the morning, then a second one in the afternoon. You don’t want your attention to be diverted to your email every half an hour or so. That’s tiring.

Messages are a little different since they sort of require an immediate reply compared to emails. But that doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to immediately open up a message the moment you receive one. It’s okay to leave them and get to them later.

You don’t want your attention to be divided when you need to focus on something important. That’s only going to distract you from completing what you need to do.

3. Co-workers and Peers

This is probably one of the hardest to address. Mainly because there’s a possibility that others could take it the wrong way and be offended if we tell them that we don’t want to be bothered while we’re getting our work done. The best way to go about doing this would be to just be indirect, hope that they’ll get the hint and leave you to your work.

In the middle of a conversation, throw something out along the lines of,
“*Sigh* okay maybe it’s time to get back to work I’ve got a lot of stuff to clear anyway”, instead of telling them to go away.

If they still don’t get the hint, start to gradually pay less attention to them during the conversation and act like you’re busy with something.

These tips don’t always guarantee that you’ll get your work done faster.

A lot of times it would and that’s great.

But that’s actually not the point.

What’s more important is strengthening your willpower and focus.

That ultimately determines your overall productivity.

And this can only be done by actively avoiding distractions.

Distractions from your phone, people around you, or anything.

And I’ll admit that it’s tough sometimes.

But it’s just like a muscle.

The more you train it, the stronger and more useful it becomes.

Get rid of the distractions.
Get quality work done.
Stress less.

It’s about saying no to the things that don’t matter and saying yes to the things that do.