Why do we judge others when we’re not perfect ourselves?
Why do we look at the imperfections of others and blame them for not doing things our way when we’re imperfect ourselves?
Why do we expect things to be perfect in an imperfect world?
Perfect is a false word that doesn’t exist. Nothing in this world is perfect. The word ‘perfect’ shouldn’t even exist in the first place.
Forget about perfect. Forget about imagining a perfect life. Forget about having a perfect spouse, friends, children, career and everything else that you want to be perfect.
Nothing in this world is perfect.
Harsh words but it’s important that we realize that. The sooner we accept that, the less disappointed and miserable we become when things don’t go our way.
Even when we think celebrities have the perfect life, we’re just looking at the glamorous side that they want us to see. They don’t show you what goes on when the cameras are cut and they’re by themselves, thinking about life the same way you and I do.
Some of us have already realized by now that life can be really tough. And it’s supposed to be. But imagining and wishing things were perfect does very little to prepare ourselves for even more challenges that will crop up in the future.
Have a resilient mind and an unshakable desire to always be above your problems and challenges. You may not be perfect but you can be amazingly strong mentally, emotionally and physically to deal with life’s challenges with ease as they come.
When it really comes down to it, the strongest and most resilient always survives and wins. Always strive to be at your peak level of condition and state of mind so that you’re always ready to deal with that random negative event when it comes up.
Never underestimate what you’re capable of.
Just. Smile. Even while you’re reading this.
A genuine smile inspires goodwill in others and makes others instantly like you. A smile is associated with friendliness, positivity, love and kindness. Who doesn’t want to be surrounded by that? And you’ll feel good too when you smile.
We can all agree that we’d rather enjoy the company of someone who smiles a lot than someone who doesn’t.
The next time you find yourself in a negative or hostile situation, be the first to smile. You might break the tension and make the situation a whole lot better.
The next time you order food from a waiter in a restaurant, be the first to smile. You might inspire them to do something nice for you.
The next time you want to attract someone, be the first to smile. Smiling is attractive!
A smile says a lot of good about you and your character. It’s one of the simplest actions we can do to make others and ourselves feel a lot better. In a way, it’s a form of charity.
So smile and see how much more positive everyone is towards you. Sometimes, all it takes is a just a deep genuine smile to make someone’s day.
Be that smile.
Some of us are living in someone else’s dictations. We don’t listen to what our hearts are telling us but we’re listening to what others are saying.
They say things like:
“You won’t make it anywhere as a ____”.
“Doing ___ is useless”.
“You won’t make as much money being a ___”.
Some of us are allowing others to tell us what we can or can’t do. What we should and shouldn’t do. What jobs we should have. What we can or can’t be.
And it’s toxic.
We’re supposed to be in charge of our own lives but someone else is controlling our steering wheels.
Forget what your parents, relatives and others tell you about what you should work as or become. Forget about the “usual path” of living life. Forget about the people who tell you ‘no’.
Work on things you love.
The only way you’ll find true happiness and live a meaningful life is to pursue your passion. Pursue it and don’t look back. It could be music, writing, advertising, programming or whatever it is. If you really love it then pursue it. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking and don’t settle for something that you’re not willing to put your heart in.
Your career is your life’s work.
If it’s something that you don’t love, you are honestly wasting the limited time you have here on this earth. Fill your life and your work with meaning and that means doing something that you love for the rest of your life. Do what you want to do and be what you want to be because it’s your life.
It’s tough having to wake up every morning and dread having to go to work or do something that you really don’t like. If you’re always looking forward to the weekends and vacations, you’re not living the life you were intended to live.
Live by your passions, not by their dictations.
We all have the same 24 hours a day. You, your colleagues, your boss, your role models in life and me.
We only get 24 hours to live our lives every single day and the most important question we don’t ask ourselves enough is,
“What do you do with your 24 hours?”
How do you spend your time every single day?
Are you filling up your time with things that bring you closer to your goals, dreams and ambitions? Or are you doing things that bring no value to your life?
Honestly assess what you do every day and see what your daily routine is like. Would a successful person adopt my routine? Or does my routine resemble that of a couch potato?
Ask yourself how much you’re worth right now. Always seek to add value to your life over time, because only then will you be a valuable person in the eyes of others. And valuable people will always be relevant and wanted.
It’s what makes the difference between Oprah and a desk clerk working a 9-5 job.
Maximize the time you have and fill it up with meaningful activities – activities that help you grow, learn and add value to your life.
If you’re someone who watches television and plays video games the whole day, your life is going to reflect that. If you’re someone who eats clean healthy foods and goes to the gym 3 times a week, your life is going to reflect that. If you’re someone who starts the day by waking up at 4am, your life is going to reflect that.
What we do every day will determine who we will become. Only time can judge and separate the winners from the losers.
You worry, you toss and turn in bed and you get anxious.
You worry about upcoming deadlines. You worry about your children’s future. You worry about everything.
You spend more time worrying and thinking instead of doing something about the very thing that you’re worried about.
Does that sound like you?
We do it from time to time, especially when a deadline draws near. But worrying does you no good at all and just causes unnecessary stress.
When you notice that you’re excessively worrying, just take a moment and focus on your breath.
Your breath is present, free from worry, free from anxiety and full of life.
Recognize the breath as you inhale and exhale. Notice the sensations in your nose and throat as you feel the breath enter and leave your body.
Focus on your breath and the now. The past and future is insignificant compared to the now. The present is all you need. If you’re worried about the future, focus on the present because your future is determined by what you do NOW.
Worried about project deadlines?
Do something about the project NOW.
Worried about getting fired from your job?
Work harder and show others how capable you are NOW.
Worried about completing homework on time?
Start working on your homework NOW.
The time for worrying is over.
Get started and get out of your head NOW.
Know that you have enough. You don’t need anything more than what you have now.
Life is good the way it is. Life is better when we have less.
Stop chasing things because material things don’t bring us happiness.
We chase and long for a certain product or gadget or item and when we get it, we start chasing for something else instead.
It’s a never ending cycle. And it only leads us to want more and more and we are never satisfied. We’re giving ourselves false hope that the next thing we chase and get will bring us happiness, but it’s not entirely true. That happiness is temporary and anything temporary is honestly not worth pursuing.
That doesn’t mean we can’t chase and buy anything.
But every time you feel like chasing something, be it a person or experience or product, ask yourself,
“Do I really need it?”
It’s a simple exercise but we don’t ask ourselves that question enough and we end up spending on impulse.
True happiness comes from within. Only you can make yourself happy, and you don’t need anything else to dictate your happiness for you. You are in control and as hard as it is to believe, you have the choice to be happy or not.
So stop chasing after the next high. You don’t need it and your bank account will thank you for it.
- Sleep and get up early
- Eat clean
- Exercise daily
- Compliment people
- Smile often
- Sit less
- Go out more
- Drink a lot of water
- Meditate and pray
- Do things you love doing
You should be well on your way to living a happy and fulfilled life if you happen to do all of the things mentioned above.
Some of us live life expecting it to be good without any effort to be done.
The truth is, life only gets better when we consciously work on ourselves and seek to improve.
A stagnant person can never find meaning in life as much as a person who’s constantly seeking to be better than they were before.
Let’s not turn a blind eye to the power of good habits.