Stop Thinking About Your Future.

The older we get, the more we worry and fret about our future.

We think of the things we want to accomplish, things that we haven’t accomplished and become unnecessarily anxious.

And it’s bad because we’re living our lives based off this anxiety instead of truly living in the moment.

Most younger people tend to not think too much about their future as much as older adults do.

They’re just concerned with living life in the moment – living it to its fullest.

In many ways, this is the most ideal way to live life instead of being constantly worried about the future and what’s to come.

As people age, we tend to search for meaning to our lives, critically think about where we’re heading in life and just worry unnecessarily.

And this creates a lot of anxiety and stress.

Now I’m not saying that we shouldn’t be thinking about the future at all.

It’s all about balance.

Because some of us are just worrying way too much about our future and our lives that we’re forgetting the point of living.

Live in the moment.

But also spend some time planning for the future too.

Without worrying.

Life’s too short to spend it worrying.

All we need is some reflection and planning.

Worrying is unnecessary and counter-productive.

Life’s too short for that too anyway.

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Use This Word More To Be Happier.

We’re always saying yes to everything.

And It’s making us do things that we don’t want to do – things that make us unhappy.

Things that might even go against our morals.

Learn to say no.

No matter how hard it is.

You need to learn to be comfortable with rejecting others and saying no.

Some of us have this fear of being criticised when we say no to people.

Or maybe some of us just want to uphold a certain image by saying yes and agreeing all the time.

I used to be like that too.

As with anything, it gets easier the more you do it.

Now I’m not telling you to say no to everything that you don’t want to do.

If something is obviously beneficial for you to do, go and do it.

But nothing is compelling about a person who says yes and agrees all the time.

You might even lose the respect of some people by being a yes-(wo)man all the time.

Say no and be fearless about it.

You’re not going to lose respect by turning people down.

You might even earn more of it especially if you have a good reason for refusing to do something, or if you’re standing up for something.

You might be surprised.

The Most Positive Action That You’re Not Doing.

Is most probably exercise.

I’m sure a lot of you already know that exercise is very important to your health, mood and overall well-being.

But a lot of us are overlooking it.

Even for those of us who exercise, we might not even be pushing ourselves every time it’s time to work out.

For some of us, it has become more of a social thing especially if we’re exercising with friends.

We don’t push ourselves out of our comfort zone and yet we wonder why exercise isn’t doing much for us.

Discomfort is required for growth.

Be it with anything else in life, not just when it comes to working out and exercising.

I admit, even I have fallen victim to this.

Workout day comes. I get my workout in and I realise that I hardly broke a sweat.

Sure, there’s still a positive effect on your body even if you do exercise without 100% of your effort but that’s just it, you don’t get 100% of the benefits. It’s not optimal.

Here are just a few fun facts about exercise when done right:
1. Boosts self-confidence
2. Improves skin complexion
3. Increases productivity
4. Enhances the immune system
5. Prevents signs of aging

You reap what you sow and this applies especially to your health and fitness.

The Truth About Happiness.

Happiness comes from within.

Not from material things.

Not from experience.

Not even from other people.

Your happiness comes solely from your perspective and the amount of gratitude for everything you have in your life.

You might not be happy with the current situation you’re in but someone else would be super grateful to be in your shoes.

It’s all about perspective and gratitude.

We hear people saying,

“I’ll be happy when I earn $X every month”
“I’ll be happy when I get a girlfriend/boyfriend”
“I’ll be happy when I look like a model”

The thing is, even if you achieved the above, there’s always going to be another set of problems to deal with.

We’ll never be happy that way.

And the good thing is, happiness doesn’t work that way either.

Happiness comes from within.

Children tend to be happier than adults and there’s a reason why.

Sure, children don’t have the same stressors and problems as adults do.

But it’s their simple-minded way of thinking which makes them happy.

They don’t desire or chase after many material things as we adults do either, and we can definitely learn a thing or two from their child-like playful behaviour.

Life shouldn’t be taken THAT seriously and kids got it right from the start.

Desire less, play more.

Do Less to Succeed.

Have you ever wanted to start a habit but couldn’t be able to?

Like exercising or flossing.

We usually start out strong and do everything as planned.

Then we start to procrastinate and eventually just stop doing them once our motivation runs out.

There are two problems going on here.

The first is relying on motivation instead of habit.
The second is starting out with too much volume.

Just do 1.

If you want to develop the exercise habit, just do 1 push up every day.
If you want to develop the flossing habit, just floss 1 tooth every day.
If you want to write a book, just write 30 words every day

It sounds stupid but it works!

We get too caught up in wanting to achieve our goals but we don’t pay enough attention to building the habit to get there.

That’s why we always quit halfway.

That’s why a lot of new year’s resolutions tend to fail.

Start out small then gradually build up the volume over time.

Think about building the habit first instead of results.

It’s a better recipe for success and the chances of you achieving your goal will increase.

Habit first, results later.

If you’re actually serious about a particular goal, you need to think about sustainability in the long term.

Starting out with 1 hour-long workouts daily isn’t sustainable if you haven’t exercised for years.

Sure you might be able to get through and complete the workouts for the first week or so when your motivation levels are high.

But when your motivation fuel runs out, you’ll start to miss workouts, and eventually just stop since it’s too big of a chore.

Start small and succeed.

Why You Always Procrastinate.

“Why do today when you can do tomorrow?”

We’ve probably heard this being said by people that we know and it’s a common procrastination phrase.

The problem with this is that it creates something called the procrastination loop.

Say you have to do Task A today and then Task B tomorrow.

Say you’re feeling extra unmotivated and lazy today and decide to do Task A tomorrow.

When tomorrow comes, you’ll have to do Task A and Task B together.

Then you realise you can only finish Task A for the day and not Task B so you push Task B to the next day.

When the next day comes, you’ll have to do Task B together with Task C or Task D.

This is what I call the procrastination loop.

We think it’s okay to miss a day of doing work but it always comes back to bite us another day.

Instead of thinking “Why do today, when I can do tomorrow?”, think “The more work I do today, the less I have to do tomorrow.”

If you’re supposed to do Task A today and Task B tomorrow, get Task A done today and get half of Task B done today too while you’re at it since you’re already on a roll.

This would mean having to do just half of Task B the next day, freeing up your day and causing you lesser stress.

Then you won’t find yourself stuck in the procrastination loop.

We’re more likely to procrastinate when tasks we have to complete seem to be too daunting or overwhelming to complete.

Get work done as soon as you can without letting them pile up.

Why Rushing Doesn’t Help You.

Slow is smooth, smooth is fast.

We’re always rushing to get stuff done as much as possible.

We go into a frantic haze, burn the midnight oil, and burn ourselves out all the time.

It’s counter-productive.

Sure we want to get as much done as possible but rushing doesn’t help us in the long run.

We don’t actually achieve much by constantly burning out.

In fact, the more we burn ourselves out, the more downtime we need to recover.

Slow down and find a comfortable pace.

In the military, the phrase ‘slow is smooth, smooth is fast’ is often used by the Navy Seal.

Going slow means making fewer mistakes.
Going slow results in a higher quality of work output.
Going slow means not stressing yourself out and not burning out all the time.

Slowing down is not necessarily a bad thing.

But there’s a fine line between being slow and being too slow.

So how do you know if you’re going too slow?

If you feel too relaxed and find yourself getting distracted too easily then that’s quite a big sign that you’re going too slow.

Going slower means you still have the ability to concentrate on the task at hand while doing it smoothly and not feeling like you’re rushing yourself to get the task done.

This smoothness is what makes work efficient and what gets stuff done quicker than if you were to be in a rushed and frenzied state.

Rushing only leads to mistakes, mistakes and more mistakes.

Pace yourself and flow.

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