Self Acceptance vs Self Improvement.

How much should we accept the way we are and how much should we strive for improvement?

Some of us are so obsessed with improving ourselves that we’re never satisfied with what we have.

Some of us are too content with the way things are that we become too comfortable and stagnant in life.

So where do we draw the line then?

Too much of either is a bad thing.

What should we do then?

Well, be a bit of both.

There should be middle ground.

There should be balance.

Accept yourself for who you are.

But also realize that if you love yourself, you need to be improving in some way.

It sounds contradicting but that’s what real self-love is all about.

The fact that you accept yourself for who you are but you want to be the best version of yourself that you possibly can.

That’s where the phrase “being the best version of yourself comes from”.

Improving yourself as much as you can without changing who you really are.

It’s essentially building upon the strengths that you already have and working on your weaknesses.

Not about changing who you are.

It’s about levelling up yourself as much as you can in life while still staying true to yourself.

That’s what self-love is all about.


You Are What You Eat.

We are what we put into our bodies.

Eat junk food and we’ll feel like crap.

Eat clean whole foods and we’ll feel awesome.

I’m actually a huge junk food eater. 

Especially fast food, believe it or not.

McDonald’s, KFC, Long John Silver’s, you name it.

I eat them on a very regular basis.

And It’s a bad thing to do.

It’s something that I’m constantly improving on.

And the negative effects are quite obvious to my health and well-being.

When I eat a ton of junk food the night before, I’ll wake up feeling groggier and tired than usual.

And my mind isn’t as sharp as it should be throughout the day.

We have a lot of options to choose from when it comes to food.

And junk food shouldn’t even be in any of those options.

Instead of grabbing a bag of potato chips, grab a bag of trail mix nuts instead.
Instead of eating a chocolate bar, get a granola bar instead.
Instead of having a soda, drink some fruit juice instead.

Even if you’re about to grab a snack, opt for healthier foods such as nuts or a granola bar instead of potato chips.

It’s almost impossible to justify why junk food would be beneficial for us in any way.

I tried and I couldn’t.

The days that I eat clean whole foods are the days that I feel my best.

And it should be the same for you too.

One Simple Way to Relax During a Busy Day.

Slow down.

If you’re always in a hurry to get things done and to get to places.
Slow down.

If you’re always getting headaches while working.
Slow down.

If you realize that you’re always feeling anxious and stressed.
Slow down.

Take the time to mentally tell yourself to take things slowly because life is a marathon, not a sprint.

The faster you sprint, the quicker you burn out.

Pace yourself and keep going instead.

There’s no point in going so fast and burning out often.

That wrecks your immune system and your health too.

Go slow and learn to enjoy the process.

Much like the story of the tortoise and the hare, the one who makes constant and steady progress wins.

The same applies to our lives.

And the sooner you realise and apply it, the more content you’ll be with life.

We have a way of making things more stressful and complicated than they seem.

Slowing down helps to keep us in perspective and improves focus.

Try out a little experiment for today.

Whatever tasks you have for the day, slow down your movements while doing them.

You may have a lot of things to do like doing the laundry, working on a report, or doing homework.

Just take them slower than usual.

Reduce the speed at which you usually do them and notice how you feel throughout the day.

How are your stress levels like?
Do you find yourself being in the zone faster?
Are you more or less productive?

Some of you might find that this is exactly what you needed all along.

The Surprising Benefits of Doing Nothing.

When was the last time you did nothing?

And I mean literally nothing.

Like sitting down and staring at a wall.

Some might call it meditation but it doesn’t necessarily have to be.

All you have to do is just spend some time to sit and do nothing.

But amidst the busy-ness of life and everything going on in our lives, doing nothing might just be what your body needs.

Our lives and calendars are scheduled with all kinds of activity.

But yet we don’t take time to be inactive.

It’s all about balance.

If you’re spending time doing all sorts of things during the day, you need to schedule some time doing nothing too.

Sure, we have other ways of de-stressing and relaxing.

But again those are still activities.

It’s not the same as doing absolutely nothing.

You’re probably thinking that it’s going to be a waste of time.

But you might be surprised.

Doing nothing is more than just being able to relax during a busy day.

It brings calm and relieves you from stress.
It helps you to be in the present moment and regains control of your attention.
It allows you to be more creative.

And as a result, you’ll improve your concentration, productivity and overall mood.

It’s going to be hard because we’re not used to doing nothing.

But try it out for yourself.

Even if it’s just for 2 minutes, you’ll be doing your body a big favor.

Stop Ignoring Your Body’s Signals Before It’s Too Late.

When you’re tired and your body is giving you all kinds of signals to stop working,

Stop working.

It’s better to stop and rest instead of risking a burnout or a mental breakdown.

We all have a ton of stuff to do daily.

But let’s not forget that one of the most important things in your life is your health.

Not your work.
Not your boss.
Not your reputation.

He/she who accomplishes without sacrificing his health triumphs the most.

Because what’s the point of getting a lot of stuff done if we’re going to be feeling demotivated and stressed the entire time.

That’s a recipe for disaster in the long-run.

And it’s just not a sustainable life.

A student once asked his teacher, “Master, what is enlightenment?”
The master replied, “When hungry, eat. When tired, sleep.”

We’ve come to a point where living in the now seems to be the hardest thing for us to do.

We ignore signals and signs by our bodies in pursuit of accomplishing more.

And we’re sacrificing our health and happiness as a result.

So do yourself a simple favour.

If you feel exhausted, take some time to rest.
If you feel stressed out and anxious, talk to a friend or watch some funny videos.

Stop ignoring what your body is telling you.

You can only do that for so long before the ill effects show up.

You’ll start getting sick more often.
You’ll feel burnt out all the time.
You’ll even start to be depressed about life.

No matter how busy life gets, be it at work or school.

Always find time to rest and play.

Life is so much better that way.

How to Thrive Under Pressure.

There might be certain days at work or school where you’ll find yourself being more stressed than usual.

Maybe your boss just said something negative to you about the quality of your work.

Maybe you have a school project deadline coming up very soon and everyone’s panicking to get it done quickly.

Either way, you realise that it’s starting to affect you negatively.

You just can’t seem to focus on getting work done because your brain is constantly thinking and worrying.

Some of us go into complete disarray when we’re stressed and pressured.

We can’t think straight.

We start doing and saying things that don’t make sense.

And the quality of our work goes down because our minds are just all over the place.

The only thing we need to do is to be able to focus on getting stuff done by shutting out all unnecessary thoughts.

Assuming that you’re not sleep-deprived or tired, the reason why you’re unable to focus is most likely due to all those thoughts running through your mind.

If you have a million things in your mind demanding for your attention, you’re not going to be able to focus and accomplish much.

You’ll just be distracted and worried by those thoughts.
You won’t be able to get in the zone while you’re working.
You won’t be making much progress in your work.

The human brain is really bad at multi-tasking.

It’s all about your ability to be still and focused on that one task you have to get done when everything else seems to be falling apart.

Pressurizing thoughts will pop up in your mind but you don’t let them faze you.

Shut them out and focus on the work you have to get done.

That’s the mark of a strong-minded individual.

“The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus”
– Bruce Lee

Why You Need to Stop Overachieving.

We’re always working hard to get to our destinations as fast as we can.

We’re so fixated on the end goal that we neglect the process of getting there.

“I’ll do whatever it takes to get there”, some of us might say.

This could mean sleepless nights, dozens of coffee every day and an unhealthy obsession to get to what we want as fast as possible.

That’s not healthy.

It’s a life full of stress and anxiety.

You’re constantly chasing and hardly living in the moment.

And you’ll be forgetting the very reason why you’re even chasing all these goals in the first place.



Isn’t that the reason why you want to earn a certain amount of money every year?
Isn’t that the reason why you want to start and grow a successful business?
Isn’t that the reason why you’re always turning down plans with the ones you love just so you can get more work done?

But life becomes a never-ending rat race then.

Why do so much just to find that you’ll have more to do when you reach the end of the tunnel?

It never ends.

Achieving more is not the answer.

We have wealthy and successful people who are unhappy.

But yet we have poorer people who are actually happy.

Just do a quick Google search and you’ll find articles and posts questioning the correlation between wealth and happiness.

You could be making a million dollars a year but still be unhappy if you despise your job.

You could be making minimum wage but still be extremely happy if you love what you do.

Success isn’t defined by how much you make.

Success is about waking up every day, being able to do what you love for a living while being surrounded by awesome people.

If you’re not having fun along the way, something is wrong.

Stop thinking about achieving so much and start enjoying the moment.

The rest will take care of itself.