We’ve always been told to sit up and stand up straight and have good body posture.
But we’re never really told to focus on having good oral posture.
And it’s quite simple.
All you have to do is close your mouth.
Breathe through your nose.
Place your whole tongue on the roof your mouth.
You don’t have to apply pressure with your tongue if you don’t want to.
Just make sure your tongue is on the roof your mouth.
That’s generally all there is to it, without diving into the minute details.
This is called “mewing”.
And mewing is all about maintaining correct oral posture whenever your mouth is at rest.
What this does is it pushes your upper jaw (maxilla) forward and upwards, resulting in forwards and upwards facial development over time.
You’ll breathe easier.
You’ll improve the quality of your sleep.
And you’ll have better facial development over time.
There are other aspects of oral posture such as having proper swallow and correct head posture but focusing on mewing will give you the most “bang for your effort.”
Not forgetting to mention that there are a host of problems associated with having incorrect oral posture.
Neck and shoulder tension/pain.
Sleep apnea and snoring.
Particularly if we continue living our lives with incorrect oral posture.
So start placing your tongue on the roof your mouth.
And practice having better oral posture.
You might probably think that it’s fear.
Or the toxic people that you’re surrounded by.
Or the environment you’re in.
We can blame others all we want.
But life’s biggest enemy is staring right back at you in the mirror.
As harsh as this may sound, you’re the reason why you’re stuck with a job that you hate.
You’re the reason why you’re still hanging out with people you despise.
The reason why we’re stuck.
The reason why we’re caught up in certain situations that we don’t like.
Is because we’ve allowed ourselves to do so.
You may disagree with this but the quality of your life is largely determined by the amount of effort you put into it.
Sure there are situations that aren’t within our control.
But we still have the capability to make conscious efforts to improve whatever situation we’re in.
Stop making excuses and start taking responsibility.
If you hate your job, take that giant leap and find one that you don’t.
Even if it means having to pay for courses to land a job that you love, go for it.
If you’re in a toxic, abusive and uninspiring relationship, get out.
Even if it means breaking up with someone you’ve been with for a long time.
If you’re stuck in college when you really want to pursue a passion that’s not related to your course of study, drop out.
Even if it means upsetting a lot of people.
We’ve become too complacent with our current situations that we continue to settle being unhappy with our lives.
It’s time to change.
It’s hard to say no when everyone else is saying yes.
It’s scary to go against the norm.
And it’s a lot easier to just agree and go along with everything.
But if you feel strongly compelled to act against something.
And if you feel really uncomfortable with where things are going.
If you’ve always been subjected to groupthink, it’s about time that you make a stand for yourself.
Being a doormat and pushover isn’t going to command you much respect anyway.
Say no fearlessly when you really feel the need to and stick with it.
As scary and “rude” as it sounds, others will respect you for it.
And as much as it feels bad to say no to others, you’ll feel more empowered.
When you do it out of authenticity.
When you do it not because you’re trying to please or impress anyone.
When you do it out of a strong personal conviction.
You’ll feel empowered.
And you’ll empower others who feel the same way you do too.
You have an opinion.
You have a voice.
As we get older, we have less time to do stuff that we did when we were younger.
One of them is playing video games.
But that’s the thing.
We need to play them more.
I’m not necessarily talking about playing big PC games like Fortnite or Apex Legends though (you could if you want to).
Just play any game that you have.
Be it on your phone or on your computer.
We’re always being told that exercise is good for us right?
Think of video games as exercise for the brain.
Nothing stimulates the brain like a good puzzle game.
Especially puzzle games like Sudoku or Tetris.
Play a game or two every day and give that brain a mental workout.
You could make it a habit to play for just 5 minutes in the morning when you wake up or in the evening you’re done with the day’s work.
It sharpens your mind.
You’ll be more quick-witted.
You’ll understand things a lot faster.
And it also prevents disorders that negatively impact your cognitive abilities such as Alzheimer’s and any form of cognitive impairment.
Provided that you play games regularly over the long term.
All you need is just 5 minutes of mental fitness every day.
Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re not good enough.
Don’t let anyone say that you can’t do something that you really want.
Don’t let anyone dictate what you should or should not do in life.
You’re awesome the way you are.
And there’s no reason for you to change what you love and what you stand for just to please others.
Ask yourself this.
At the end of your life, would you be happy knowing that you lived life according to others?
Or would you rather say that you lived YOUR life doing the things that you wanted to?
The people who want you to change are either projecting their personal wants and expectations on to you.
Or they’re just envious.
But you also have to know the difference when someone’s being discouraging or helpful.
Part of being able to realise your goals is also about recognising which feedback is useless and which is not.
Some people are genuinely trying to help but there are others who aren’t.
Don’t change for anyone unless you have good reasons to do so.
Unless what you’re doing is harming others in some way, you’re fine.
There’s nothing wrong with what and who you are.
And it’s important that you always remember that.
Don’t change, improve.
We all have goals in our lives.
We want to be fitter.
We want to earn a bigger income.
We want to be more productive.
But when you think about it, it all leads to a single big goal which encompasses everything.
The goal of self-improvement.
If you want to get fitter, that’s an improvement of your physical health.
If you want to earn a bigger income, that’s an improvement of your financial standing.
If you want to be more productive, that’s an improvement in your work ethic.
They’re all related to improvement.
And I’m a big fan of simplifying life.
So instead of coming up with a lot of different goals to achieve in life, I decided that I would just sum it all up as one goal.
The goal of improving and being the best version of yourself.
As vague as that sounds, it’s actually perfect.
Because it’s a goal that never ends.
You’re always striving to be better than you were.
But not perfect.
We can only aim to improve and be better.
And that’s something that we should ideally do the older we get.
If you’re doing the laundry.
If you’re writing a report.
If you’re studying for an upcoming test.
Whatever the task is.
Find enjoyment in the process.
Find something or anything that you enjoy in your work.
And enjoy the process.
Getting homework done sounds like a chore but learning can be fun if you keep an open mind instead of thinking about what you can’t wait to do once the homework is done.
We have thoughts like:
“I can’t wait to finish my homework so I can go play some video games”.
“I can’t wait to get off work so I can catch up on my favourite sitcom”.
“I just want to get this chore done so I can get back to watching Youtube videos”.
A lot of times we don’t enjoy the process because we’re too fixated on the rewards of finishing it.
But why is enjoying the process important?
Besides the obvious point that you’ll enjoy the work, you’ll also be less likely to burn out especially if the task is long and tough.
Think about an activity that you really enjoy.
You don’t look forward to the end when you’re doing an activity that you enjoy.
We wish it could never end!
You don’t get tired of it either.
If you like to play video games, you don’t go, “I can’t wait to finish playing this video game so I can go to sleep”.
But we say things like, “I can’t wait to get homework done so I can watch Youtube videos and do other stuff”.
It’s all about learning to find enjoyment in the process instead of being fixated on finishing.