Stop and observe them.
Always remember that when you have thoughts, cravings, wants and urges, you don’t have to buy into them.
Remember that they are simply made up by your mind and that you have a choice whether to act upon them and let them affect you. Let the negative and unwanted thoughts affect you and you’ll become even more self conscious, more depressed, more selfish, more impulsive.
You are the only one responsible for allowing what can and cannot affect you.
You always have a choice.
Make a conscious choice to not let the bad thoughts of the mind affect you.
Your mind will say,
“I’m just not good enough no matter how hard I try”.
But they’re not true unless you believe in them and accept them to be true.
Otherwise, they’re just random thoughts.
Don’t let such thoughts affect you.
They are just negative self talk that the mind comes up with every now and then. And it’s normal to have negative thoughts like that. We all have them. But if you believe in them and let them affect you, then your entire being will start to believe and become them.
So every time a thought comes up, stop and observe it.
Is it a good or bad thought?
If it’s good then good, let it absorb into your being and consciousness and accept it.
If it’s bad, then counter it with a positive thought and bring balance. Every time unwanted and negative self talk occurs, always counter it with a positive thought/affirmation. Don’t leave that negative thought hanging because it’s still going to haunt you unless there’s balance.
Balance the negative thought and be in a better state of mind.
Because it’s only with balance can we truly be happy and content.